You might have wondered why a guy like Stevie J (who has an attractive, nurturing woman at home) is fawking around with a chick like Joseline Hernandez. “Why f–k with a ho# when you have a housewife,” you might be thinking?
Let me break-down this often committed Love Crime…
I once dated and was engaged to a guy whom I really wanted to marry. He was a nice guy who treated me well. We enjoyed each other’s company and I was well-accepted into his family. I thought our relationship would go Platinum. I thought I would be Mrs. ____ and never have to deal with the drama of dating again. I thought my Playgirl days were over and that I could retire into matrimony at the ripe old age of 21.
One conversation, however, changed all that. I Peeped Game on my fiancé and after that conversation, I knew a future with him was near impossible. Here’s what happened:
As we rolled down Highway 57 here in Illinois on our way to my soon-to-be in-laws for a weekend getaway, we passed a large porn superstore. Since the shopping center was a new structure, my fiancé pointed it out to me and said,
“Isn’t that cool? Now men don’t have to risk being seen going into a porn shop in town. They can dip out here and indulge their fantasies privately.”
He waited for me to co-sign what he was saying but I didn’t. I was baffled. All I could think about was why my man was even thinking about dipping off and why he felt he needed to go to a porn super store. As I sat there silent thinking, my ex said something to the effect of,
“You don’t have a problem with me buying pornography and going to porn shops do you?”
He didn’t wait for me to respond. Instead, he went on to explain that he visited the store often and enjoyed buying hardcore videos and watching the in-store “Peep Show.” When I asked him why he never mentioned all of that to me before he said something peculiar.
He said, “You are my flower. I put you on a pedestal…above every other woman. I would never expect you to do certain things, nor would I ask you to. You are pure. That other stuff (hardcore sex) is for ho*s. You are my queen. You are different.”
I’ll never forget that moment. I never thought I could feel so loved and so played all in the same moment.
My fiancé thought he was giving me a compliment. He was trying to be honest and sincere. He was trying to explain his logic–probably trying to show me more of who he was. And he was probably hoping I would understand. BUT what I picked-up from his statements was G.A.M.E. I saw then that my fiancé was a Stevie J. He wanted a pure, wifey-type woman at home AND a freak on the side. He didn’t want his wife to engage in certain sexual behaviors. He wanted a wife he could keep pure (straight sex, no bells and whistles), but what would he do about his desire for hardcore sex?
I asked him about that. I said, “So, how does this work? How do you keep me ‘pure’ but satisfy your desire for ‘more’?”
When I asked that, he seemed to come to himself. He snapped out of his daydream and I think he realized he had revealed more than he should have. He tried to clean-up what he said but he couldn’t. Our relationship was never the same after that. and it ended soon after.
As I look at Mimi and Stevie J, I remember my first love. I remember that GAME I peeped early on in my dating life—that some men want a wife at home and a freak on the side…
Why? In the case of my fiancé, something happened in his childhood that made him separate what he saw as “Women” from what he perceived as “Ho*s”. I believe men like Stevie J have the same issue. They see women in black and white. A chick is either ”wifey” or a “ho*”. There is no in between.
My fiancé once revealed (after the incident above) that his “wife” should not be nor act like a “Hoe.” What made a woman a “Hoe” or her actions “Ho*ish” included performing certain sexual acts. He told me he couldn’t imagine me doing certain things and didn’t ever want me to do certain things. He told me once, “Be glad you’re my women and that I don’t treat you like these other ho*s.”
Basically, he wanted June Cleaver at home but he craved Karrine Steffans (see photo below).
He didn’t think I picked-up on that last part but I did. While I’m at home baking cookies with the kids, he’d be getting his freak on with some Joseline Hernandez type. After fulfilling his sexual desires with Jump Off, he’d come home to me and the kids…I guess. That was his fantasy but it definitely wasn’t mine.
Most men…normal guys want to “go there” sexually with the woman they’re in love with. But some men can’t engage in anything but Missionary Position (and not much else) with their wives. They can’t “f–k” their wife! They need a “hoe” for that. So, they seek out prostitutes and other loose types for their sexual satisfaction. They go to the streets for their needs, then come home to what they want.
The problem with this logic is that it leaves the woman at home unsatisfied and unfulfilled.
Men like Stevie J are attracted to the Joseline Hernandez and Karrine Steffans’ of the world. Thatkind of woman appeals to their inner self. That kind of woman satisfies their inner man. They want the “ho*-ish” woman, but they know that kind of woman can’t be made into a wife.
Society dictates men should marry respectable women. Joseline nor Karrine would be considered respectable women. What these men really want and what society says they should have are 2 different things.
Stevie J will probably always cheat on Mimi and any other woman he dates. He wants a wife but he needs a “Ho*.” He is not satisfied with traditional sex — a normal sex life. He needs the excitement of a “ho*”–someone who will call him “Daddy” (like Joseline does) and who is ready and willing to do whatever Stevie asks her to.
BEWARE!!! Men like Stevie J want the appearance of normalcy but they often keep a “Joseline Hernandez” on the side.
If you’re dating a man who lives in the strip club, who watches porn constantly, and who seems to idolize women who are porn stars…you better be sure…be really sure your man IS NOT A STEVIE J.
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I think the following quote from The Root sums up this entire situation well…
“To say that Stevie J has a wandering eye is an understatement, since he is clearly “involved” with artist Joseline Hernandez, who seems to be more of a drag queen than a rapper. Mimi’s issues involve trust and a clear loss of self-esteem as she suffers one humiliation after another at the hands of Stevie J, a wannabe player whose game is as weak as Joseline’s “rap.” Mimi’s obsession with him seems as loony as Lil’ Scrappy’s mother, who admits at one point that she is off her meds…”
And if you need anymore proof Stevie J is a freak, peep the photo Stevie released of Eve after the couple broke up in 2000 on the next page!
(WARNING! NOT SAFE FOR WORK)
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