If you want to attract a lot of men…or just a few more than you currently are…shift your energy. Slight sifts in your energy (aka the vibe people unconsciously get when they see/talk to you) can dramatically change the number of men you attract.
Yes, men are visual creatures. Yes, looks come into Play in the Dating Game. But, above and beyond looks…ENERGY is one of the BIG SECRETS to attracting men. If and when you want to increase the number of men who approach you, who look at you walk by, and who want to date you…fine tune your ENERGY!
(1) Develop an appreciation for adoration, compliments, and attention!
Attractive people are people who enjoy attention. Their appeal to others can be physical (pretty face, nice body,etc); it can be charm (magnetic personality, sexy vibe, etc); and it can be an “X” Factor (an unidentifiable quality aka je ne sais quoi). Regardless of the qualities that draw people to them, “attractive” people tend to enjoy the attention and positive energy they receive from others.
I have seen many women scowl at men who compliment them. When I ask them why they’re scowling at or shooing away men who are trying to show them love, they always respond, “I don’t want him; He’s not my type,” or, something like that! I get their point, but as a woman who gets a lot of compliments and my share of attention, I can tell you that the way to get more compliments and more attention…is to APPRECIATE the people who are taking the time to compliment you.
You dont’ have to date every man who approaches you or who says you’re cute. Simply, thank him for his kind words and keep it moving.
Appreciate attention. Love compliments. Accept love from whomever offers it. Over time, you’ll observe your following (of men) increase substantially.
(2) Learn to LOVE the company of men!
Notice, men who have a lot of women…love the company of women! They’ll often say it. They’ll say things like, “I just love women. I love all women. I just love being around women. I’d spend time with a woman over a man anytime.” Likewise, women who love the company of men…tend to have a lot of men!
If you want to see your Dating Pool increase exponentially, develop an appreciation for the company of men. Love their quirks..and even the games they Play. Just love being around men–their masculine faces, their manly smell, the way they talk, the way they walk…
Don’t be like some of the women I’ve seen. As soon as a few guys start calling them, they start calling them stalkers and tuning them out…preferring to spend time with their girls. Guys are begging them to go out, and they start making up excuses why they can’t go out with them. “I’m busy! I’ve got a big project to finish. Girl, why does he keep calling me?”
Don’t do that! Stop that!!!
Bask in the light of men’s love for you. Enjoy spending time with them. Learn how to balance your time with friends with your expanding Dating Life. You are a STAR, and men are starting to take notice. Don’t mess up this good thing with a negative attitude. Millions of women would LOVE to be in your shoes!
(3) Keep your SELF-CONFIDENCE high!
The more men you meet, the more often you will encounter a HATER! These guys will hate on the fact that men are choosing you. They will try to point out every fault about you, and try to convince you and others that the attention you get is not warranted. “You’re not all that! Look at this. Look at that!”
You are to take none of that nonsense into your consciousness. Hear it, but don’t. Feel me?
The reality is this: Some men will think you’re the finest thing walking. Some will not! Haters come, and haters go! Your job is not convincing the CLUELESS. As long as most of the men you encounter SEE, RESPOND TO, AND APPRECIATE YOUR FLYNESS…the unconvinced SHOULDN’T MATTER atoll.
Katt Williams put it best when he said, “How can somebody effect your self-esteem? It’s called SELF-ESTEEM $%^#!” Women tend to take the criticisms of one man to heart! Who is he? Why does his opinion of you matter? It doesn’t…and neither does he!
(4) Use the opposite sex!
I’ve always had men friends. Men like to kick it with me. They enjoy my company. Most of my home boys buy me dinner and pay for outings…just because they like being around me. Yeah, I know they’re hoping for a chance. You know that and I know that. But, 99.9% don’t mind kicking it with me nonetheless…and footing the bill.
This kind of treatment keeps me used to GOOD TREATMENT FROM MEN —> getting into clubs for free, getting my Valet paid for, not paying for drinks, getting gifts on my birthday and christmas, even getting treated to a spa day —> are a few of the perks of keeping men friends in your life.
Me being used to men who TREAT ME WELL…carries over to my Dating Life. I’m not thirsty for attention or for a date. I’ve got more attention than I can handle (and that’s from the men in my life who are just friends). When I meet a man I want to date, he can see and feel MY SELF-ASSURANCE. He can sense I AM A CONFIDENT WOMAN. He sees my phone blowing up, and he knows OTHER MEN ARE PURSUING ME. All of that works to my advantage. I’m not begging to be taken out. I’m not sitting by the phone on the weekend waiting for somebody to think of me…
There’s nothing more appealing to a man…than a woman who’s being pursued by other men!
The world is yours ladies! You can CREATE the Dating Life of your dreams…if you know how! Now, I just Spit Game on how to draw in MORE MEN THAN YOU CAN COUNT! Doing the above will change your ENERGY and help you to become more ATTRACTIVE to men!
Remember, looks are one thing, but to really Pimp Your Dating Life…you need to know how to use your ENERGY ! Point. Blank. Period.
Until next time…Don’t hate the Player, learn the Game!