MORE DATING SECRETS REVEALED: This Is Why Curiosity Killed The Cat!

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It’s long been said, “Curiosity killed the cat!”

I don’t know who started that saying, but I don’t buy it and neither should you.  When it comes to dating, curiosity is EVERYTHING!

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Curiosity is a tool of my Game.  {Add it to your repertoire}

In fact, I wouldn’t know what I know about men if I wasn’t curious.  And, you won’t know what you need to know about the man/men in your life if you are not curious.

Peep Game: I have met so many women who pride themselves on not checking their man’s phone records, bank account, credit card charges, health status, etc.  They say only an insecure woman wants to know what a man’s doing or where his money is going.  Really?
That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard!  Let me break it down!

I was super cool with this dude who was a Player.  He had a live-in girlfriend but he did his thing on the side.  Know what I mean?  He’s a quiet dude you wouldn’t peg as a Player but those are the ones you need to watch.  He was as slick as they come.  Trust me on that. 

He and I were good friends so we talked about everything.  Dude would call me at various times of the day and evening depending on our schedules.  He had about 3 phones, none of which his girlfriend answered.  One day I asked him why his girl never answered the phone or interrupt our conversations.  His answer, “…because this is my phone…” 

I answered, “Right, but in 3 years, she’s never, ever answered any of the phones.  Does she use the phone?  Doesn’t she ever get curious about who you’re talking to and what you’re talking about?  After all, you are having 1, sometimes 2 hour conversations.”  

“She knows better,” was his response.

Now, I knew he dated other women.  I knew he talked to those women on all 3 of his phones.  What I didn’t know was why his girl didn’t EVER question him being on the phone with one woman or another all times of day and night. 

My Player friend revealed that his girlfriend believed he was talking to customers.  He sold bootleg movies on the side.  She also believed he was talking business with songwriters, singers and producers since he sometimes worked as a music producer. 

“And she never suspects anything,” I asked?  “Nope,” he responds.  “She doesn’t answer my calls and she knows not to interrupt me when I’m on the phone.  Period.” 

I’m giving you pieces of a much larger puzzle but you get the point. 

I really think the reason his girl never questioned him was because she didn’t want to show weakness or appear insecure.  If only she’d let that bull crap go, she’d know what I knew about her man. 

I’m not saying my friend’s girl was the cause of her man cheating.  No woman makes a man cheat.  A cheater’s going to cheat.  But when you don’t ask questions and aren’t “curious” about your man’s outside relationships and activities, you give him the opportunity to Play you.  Believe that!

Bottom Line:  My guy friend was a major Player.  He was the kind of dude who wouldn’t even take a woman to dinner, a movie–nothing.  He prided himself on getting sex without having to spend a dime other than gas money to get to the p*ssy. 

He never let his side pieces pick the day or time they saw him; he decided when and where they met.  He left the house when he got ready without explanation and returned when he got ready.  He was that kind of dude.

He got away with being a Player because his girl never asked questions and never challenged his actions.  It’s not her fault that he cheated.  But, it was her lack of curiosity that allowed him to cheat as much as he wanted, when he wanted. 

Oh what things she would have found out if only she’d answered the phone a time or two.  He was so sloppy (having side pieces call the home phone), his Game would have easily been revealed.

Every relationship requires openness and honesty.  An honest, committed man has no problem telling you where he’s going and who he’ll be with.  An honest man wants you to feel secure so he’ll make sure you are clued into most things if not everything.

Players depend on your pride and your fear of appearing insecure.  They don’t want you to know what they’re up to so they keep their phones locked and the passwords to everything under wraps.  If you ask questions, they’ll say you’re being controlling or jealous. 

Now, I’m not saying you need to be a stalker.  You don’t need to follow all of his Tweets and trace his phone calls.  Just be aware.  Be curious.  Ask questions.  Answer the phone…at least sometimes. 

Smart women ask questions and honest men don’t mind answering those questions.  Remember that!

Until next time…Don’t hate the Player, Learn the Game!