Somebody woke up salty this morning! Was it you? Whose Boo pulled a disappearing act or showed up to the family dinner empty handed? Whose carefully selected gift was well received but not reciprocated?
I wonder just how many men had their cell phones on vibrate or turned-off completely the entire holiday weekend? And I wonder just how many women waited patiently as the hours ticked by without a call, text or so much as a Tweet from their Boo?
Whose Boo brazenly showed-up to collect his Christmas gift and reciprocated with nothing but a hug and a kiss? Whose department store, designer purchase was countered with something hurriedly purchased at the neighborhood drug store?
What were the excuses he used for getting you nothing at all or next to nothing? Did he promise to get you something for your birthday? Did he ask you to be patient while he gets his finances together? Did he give you a speech like, “…it’s the thought that counts..?”
Peep Game: Let me remind you that Players think of no one but themselves? You were never even a thought or consideration. That’s why you didn’t get anything. He didn’t forget. He didn’t have an unexpected expense. He wasn’t confused about what to buy. Your gift didn’t get lost in the mail. Player, Player showed-up empty handed because…well…just because. And, the few who did show up with something more than likely picked it up on the way to your house. Was it even wrapped? I doubt it!
So, how does he figure he can receive gifts but not give a gift? The same way people order drinks on a group tab then dip out of the restaurant/club before the bill arrives. Don’t try to make sense of it. You’ll only bust your brain trying. This kind of behavior makes no sense because it’s nonsense!
Bottom Line: Let’s review. If your guy disappeared on Christmas, if he showed-up for his gift but gave you nothing or, if he gave you something super cheap/random that looks like it was purchased on the way to your house–you’re probably getting Played!
Now, if your Boo disappeared on or before Christmas, he’ll resurface around the 4th or 5th of January. There’s no need to worry. Please try not to panic. He’ll show up with a surprisingly believable story that will explain away his absence. You might be inclined to believe him. Don’t! He’s lying. Need proof? Just ask him for your gift. “Huh?” Gotcha! Watch him squirm as he tries to come up with a reasonable response. Trust me. He won’t have one.
For those of you who’s Boo gifted you with a cheap “As Seen On TV” item from the neighborhood Walgreens while he brazenly asks you if the chain you purchased is 10k or 14k, pay attention!!! Boo Bear is a Player. Rather than satisfying your tastes with something you really want (and deserve), he’s counting the booty he’s collecting from you and probably a few other well-meaning but misguided women.
You know, some people say relationships shouldn’t be based on material things. They say you should be happy with whatever a person gives you. That’s about as big a lie as the saying, “Size doesn’t matter!”
At the end of the day, money and gifts are THE way to show appreciation for another human being. Unless both parties agree not to exchange gifts, it is dishonest and highly suspect when a man accepts and/or solicits gifts from a woman without returning the favor. Remember that!!!
Until next time…Don’t hate the player, learn the Game!