Ask Butta: I’m Looking For Prince Charming, How Do I Spot Him In The Midst Of All These Playas?

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Dear Butta,

I’m a huge fan of your website and I’m always reading it. I hope you continue it for years to come.  And thank you for all the knowledge you have shared.

But in life I’ve noticed some play girls know how to spot and pick up “The good men” so easily. To me it’s a bit tricky since they are rare and A LOT of players/bad men will act like nice guys and act like men of substance to get you. Is there any signs (to look for) tips,advice and lessons you can give in to spotting a good man. The type that is HUSBAND-MATERIAL. 

Any signs/tips/advice etc of the men to stay away from(I’m talking subtle but important signs) or are all men the same?

Signed,

Looking for Prince Charming

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Dear Looking,

Your support of PeepGame.Net means everything.  THANK-YOU from the bottom of my heart.

Now, on to your question!

I understand your dilemma completely.  The thing is, it takes time to develop an awareness of BULL****.  But over time…as you soak in the knowledge on this site…you’ll start to SEE THROUGH men, and PEEP GAME at first glance.  Just keep plugging away at the principles on this site, and you’ll see COMMON THREADS OF GAME that link all Playas.

One tip I can give you to help you out now is this:

Ask your Divine Power to give you greater wisdom.  Ask for the ability to see through men, and to know when a man isn’t right.  When you meet men, pray.  Ask your Divine Power to reveal the guy’s true intentions.  Ask to see everything you need to see.

I’ve mentioned that tip once before.  Why?  Because it is THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAY to quickly unearth the truth about a man.  I warn you though, asking for the truth reveals the truth.  I’ve met some guys whose company I really enjoyed…but when I put their behinds under prayer…within days the truth about them was revealed.  Needless to say, I had to drop them ASAP!

READ MORE: ‘HOW TO SPOT A PLAYA’ SERIES

Other than the tips above and the ones in the “How to Spot a Playa” series…

I can tell you that a Playa’s actions don’t line up with his words.  Simple!  He’ll promise the world but deliver a peanut.  He’ll make excuses for the peanut (i.e. “I had a bill to pay.  Next time baby.”).  If you push him too hard (to act right or deliver on promises) he’ll disappear for long periods of time or start an argument.  The purpose of the argument is to put you on the defensive (“Why are you trippin’?  Why are you acting so insecure?”)  The purpose of disappearing is to give you time to cool off AND TIME TO MISS HIM.  Also, the Playa will make sure he gets something for everything he gives (i.e. “If I come over, will you give me some —?  I want to see you but I don’t have much gas.  Can you help me out?”)

HOW IS PRINCE CHARMING DIFFERENT THAN THE PLAYBOY?

I’m can also share some advice from one of my male sources.  He mentioned this to me a while back.  He said, men who want a relationship tend to speak differently to the woman they want than a PlayBoy.  They drop the slick/smooth/fast talk.  They stop trying to impress, and just vibe with a woman.  Their conversation is more relaxed and casual.

BUTTA’S EXAMPLE:

Playa >>> “Yeah, how are you feeling tonight.  I was thinking about you.  You have time to see a brotha this week?”  (YOU GIVE, HE TAKES)

Prince >>> “How are you?  I called you earlier.  I wanted to catch you before you went to bed to make sure you got in okay.”  (HE’S EXPRESSING GENUINE CONCERN FOR YOUR WELLFARE)

Also, look for a guy’s desire to make you happy.  How far does he go to please you?  Is it always about him getting what he wants or is what you want his priority?  Does he expect rewards (like sex) for everything he does for you or, is he happy just seeing you happy?

Another tip?  A man after a woman’s heart works to lock a woman down QUICKLY!  That’s a big key.  He doesn’t want to risk losing her to someone else.  Men with little interest or selfish interests call ONLY when they feel like it or when they want to see you.  Men who want to be your man/husband, make it their business to stay in contact and check-in regularly.

Lastly, get out of the looking stage.  Accept that the right man for you is HERE RIGHT NOW!  Thank the Universe for sending you THE PERFECT MAN FOR YOUR LIFE who is ready and willing to commit.  Start planning out your dates with your dream guy.  Visualize yourself doing the things you want to do WITH YOUR PRINCE CHARMING.  Visualize a guy (who looks the way you want him to look) holding your hand and saying, “I love you!”

Like Kim Zolciak famously said,

ASK

BELIEVE

RECEIVE

Now that’s GAME!!!

Much Love,

Butta Jonez

P.S. Not all men are the same!  Thank God!!!

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