Peep Game: Ladies! No man is going to give you THE GAME!!! No man (who knows and understands The Dating Game from the perspective of a Playa) will reveal The Game to you! To reveal The Game would be to reveal his Game–and that, a Playa will never do.
Remember that the next time you run across a blog post or a video where a man claims to be schooling women on men! No PlayBoy is going to school a woman on The Game. Why would he? To school you is to elevate your mind frame above his own. If he educates you about ‘how men think,’ you know his tricks and a few of your own…
Why would he do that to himself? He won’t!
Sure, you might luck up on a kibble and bit here and there. And a smart man will feed you just enough to keep you coming back to his books, videos, blog, etc. for more. But that dude will never drop any real knowledge–you know the Izm you need to do something significant. If Game is a peanut…all he’s feeding you is the outer shell.
You’ll need the nuts inside (the shell) if you’re going to Mack anybody down or Run Game in any significant way. How far (in The Game) can you go with just a shell?
Truth be told, a lot of these Cats writing books and making DVD’s are spitting The Game backwards…on purpose. They know women are thirsty for knowledge about men, so they feed women concepts and principles that are either…totally useless OR USEFUL TO THEMSELVES.
For example, I’ve listened in on radio shows where a so-called relationship expert was schooling women on how to NOT stay single. Here was one of his pieces of advice:
- Ladies, stop waiting on a man to buy you a ring. If you’re independent, buy your own ring. If a man doesn’t want to buy you a ring, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. (HUH?)
Here’s another example. On this other radio show I heard a guy dishing advice to women about how to keep their man from cheating. His advice?
- Ladies, be more adventurous in the bedroom. If you allow your man to indulge his fantasies (3-somes, etc), he won’t feel the need to dip off with someone else (WHAT?)
And one of my favorite lines of bullsh-t that I’ve heard many male “relationship experts” tell women is…
- Women can’t be players! (ISN’T THAT CONVENIENT?)
GET THIS THOUGH. What’s funnier to me than anything these Clever Cats write or say is…how women sit in the audience and nod and agree with everything they’re saying. (I guess it never occurred to them that some if not all of what these guys are saying and writing is B-U-L-L-S-H-*-T!)
Don’t believe me? Ask Steve Harvey!
Bottom Line: I haven’t run across a man yet who wanted women to know more Game than them. (If you meet that dude, tell him to hit me up!) And even though I know and have known men who will share a few secrets…trust me when I say they’re giving up shells.
In fact, a friend I knew 10+ years shocked me when he shot some backwards Izm to me one day when I asked him a question about a dating situation. Instead of advising me like a friend…he put his Pimp hat on and fed me some script that would benefit him…and the Cat I was referring to. Friends or not, this guy refused to put me up on Game!
It was then that I realized that I couldn’t expect or depend on men to teach me The Game! I had to get it for myself. You’re going to have to get The Game for yourself too!
Here’s a tip: If the advice someone is giving you has no benefits for you…it’s probably NOT GOOD ADVICE! If you’re being told to accept a liar, tolerate a cheater or, love a man who (obviously) doesn’t love you…PEEP GAME!
And most importantly…IF A MAN SAYS HE’S A PLAYA OR A MACK…HE’S PROBABLY NOT THE PERSON YOU SHOULD BE GET ADVICE FROM!
Want to know what inspired this post? Peep Game on Tariq Nasheed (relationship expert and author of Play or Be Played: What Every Female Should Know About Men, Dating, and Relationships). In the video, Tariq demonstrates how to check a disrespectful female. Is this the guy you want relationship advice from?
Until next time…Don’t hate the Player, learn the Game!